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Treatment for separation anxiety varies from dog to dog. Here are some steps to relieve separation anxiety.
By Laura Pakis, Certified Dog Trainer and Cynologist,
Treatment for separation anxiety varies from dog to dog. Here are some things you can do to assist in modifying this behavior or preventing it.
Steps to relieve separation anxiety
1. Crate your dog
Crating your dog during your times of absence has two positive results. First, a dog confined to a carrier or crate cannot damage your home. Secondly, a crate will act as a safe, comfortable den where the dog can relax when properly introduced. Limiting his movement also acts as an anxiety reducer for most dogs.
A dog who has to be physically manhandled into the crate has not yielded to you the authority to place him there. You’ve merely shoveled him in there with no “buy-in” from the dog. By teaching the dog to load himself on command, the dog learns to confer upon you the authority to determine what space his body shall occupy. That is called submitting to the leader and teaching the dog to
First, lure and prompt to get your dog to go in and out when the dog appears calm about doing that, then up the ante and let the dog see you put rewards inside the crate and close the door. The dog should recognize the treat inside the crate and the dog on the outside. When the dog is really “fussing,” to get in, open the door and let the dog in. Repeat and alternate dog in the crate with food in the crate (dog and food separated by the crate door) until the dog can remain in a calm state.
Close the door for a second, then let the dog out.
Have your dog lay down in the crate with the door closed. Then treat in the crate.
The final stage is for you to go out of sight.
The process can usually be accomplished daily (about four 20 minute sessions). This technique works very well, especially on frantic dogs.
Should your dog start barking, hit the crate with a pan or spoon without saying a word (as if to create thunder). Repeat that at intervals if your dog does not give it up. DO NOT let your dog get too worked up. If the loud sound does not interrupt and startle your dog into stopping the unwanted behavior, then lift one end of the crate an inch or two and bounce the crate up and down a few times. Again, don’t say anything or tie the correction to you in any way. Just make the behavior un-rewarding.
Cover the crate for dogs that won’t give up (prefer the plastic crate for this), so the dog cannot see out.
Some dogs prefer to be in a room next to a window, and some do not. Some dogs feel safer in a plastic walled crate, and some prefer a wire crate. Find out what works best for your dog.
2. Turn on a radio or television
Turn on a radio or television in a room you are often in–the bedroom is usually a good choice–and close the door. Your dog will hear the human voices from your room and may not feel alone. Stick to an Easy-listening station to not excite the dog or use the animal planet channel. Some clients tape-record their voices and play the recording in place of the radio or television program. Dogs know the sound of your voice all too well. And remember, since your dog is most anxious just after you leave, a one-hour recording will probably suffice. It will buffer outside noises and make the house seem occupied. Also, leave a light on if it will be getting dark.
3. Prepare a “bye-bye” chew toy
Get a “kong” and fill it with goodies such as dried liver pet treats, beef jerky, peanut butter, cheese, or other things your dog likes. Keep it hidden and take it out when you leave each day. Place it near your dog just before you close the door. When you arrive home, put the
4. Change your exit pattern
The most challenging time for most dogs is immediately after you leave. Their anxious (and sometimes destructive) behavior occurs within the first hour after leaving them alone. It will be your job to reshape your dog’s behavior through reinforcement training. Maintain a calm presence around your dog for the last 30 minutes before you leave the house so as not to excite your dog and possibly induce stress. Leave your dog out of the crate, put your coat on, and walk to the door and leave. Come back in immediately. Greet your dog calmly. Tell your dog to sit. When your dog sits, reinforce this behavior with praise or a treat the dog enjoys. Wait a few minutes and then repeat the exercise, this time remaining outside a few seconds longer. Continue practicing leaving and returning over the next few weeks. Always remember when returning to greet your dog calmly and command your dog to sit before offering a treat.
Also, do your pre-departure activities without actually leaving. For instance, pick up your keys, watch television, put your coat on and wash the dishes, or wear your work clothes while reading a book. Do anything but leave the house, do this randomly, and continue whenever you can. Do only one exercise at a time and keep it brief. Your dog should begin to learn that coats or keys mean nothing at all. The critical thing to remember is not to do these exercises within an hour of leaving.
Do not say “goodbye” to your dog with hugs and kisses. Ignore your dog for five minutes before you go. Paying too much attention will make your dog feel more insecure when the attention is abruptly withdrawn.
6. Learning to spend time alone
You can help your dog learn to be comfortable away from you. This process will help teach your dog that it is okay to be left alone! It must be done slowly, paying careful attention to your dog’s behavior. Your dog must not display anxiety at any time throughout the progression. You can perform this exercise when relaxed and sitting down for a while, such as watching television or reading a book. Perform these exercises during commercials or in between chapters of your book.
It is crucial NEVER to TELL THE DOG TO STAY! You want your dog to decide to stay on his own. Once your dog ignores each activity, you may proceed to the next exercise. Each activity may take several days or even weeks.
- When a commercial comes on, stand up. If your dog gets up with you, sit back down. Continue standing up and sitting down until your dog ignores your activity or the commercial is over.
- Stand up and take ONE step away from your dog and chair. Return and sit back down. Do this until your dog ignores you.
- Continue this process until you can walk around your chair without your dog getting up.
- Once your dog ignores your laps around the chair, then start moving around the room.
- Now step out of the room (ONE STEP) and immediately back in. Once your dog accepts your disappearance without a response, you can begin to increase the length of time you are out of sight. Do this slowly and gradually.
7. Diet and exercise
Diet, walks, and the home environment also plays a role in preventing stress in your dog. Below are some suggestions for easing your dog’s anxiety. It is imperative that a dog receives positive, quality attention.
- Dogs are social creatures and need playtime. It is vital that you, as the owner, set the beginning and end times for the game. Your dog should not demand the game be played. Have a specific fetch toy and take it out only when it is time to play. If a dog is good for six fetches, then stop at four. Gradually add a repetition on each day until your dog will do two dozen back and forth. Put the toy away when the game is over. This will ensure that the dog stays motivated and does not lose or destroy the toy.
- Have chew toys for your dog when not playing. Do not play fetch with your dog’s chew toys, as that will reinforce your dog’s demanding play at the wrong times.
- Controlling when and what to play with will put you in the role of leader and prevent dominance issues.
- Feed your dog twice per day. This will satisfy your dog and prevent possible mood swings due to likely low blood sugar.
- Calmly walk your dog twice a day for 20 minutes. You can also include some basic obedience training, such as sits and downs on the walks. This also encourages your dog to keep its focus on you.
A dog lacking exercise is more likely to have stress and tension. Tiring a dog out with a long walk, a good run, or play goes a long way in reducing stress.
8. Obedience training
Obedience helps to structure the dog’s life. Practice a minimum of 15 minutes a day strictly on obedience and enforce any command you give your dog, so the dog’s world remains black and white. This way, the dog will know his boundaries.
Practice long down-stays and sit-stays, so your dog learns to control himself while you leave the room.
Whether the dog has minor or severe separation anxiety, the PLACE command is one of the most effective tools in your toolbox. This command teaches dogs self-control which an anxious dog needs to learn. Contact a professional dog trainer for more information on this command.
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When a dog has a strong leader, it has a calming effect on dogs. The dog feels safe and taken care of. Without a strong leader, the dog feels obligated to assume that position in the family pack’s social hierarchy. Since a leader must control all that goes on, the dog’s inability to control your leaving causes the dog stress and anxiety. Obedience training is the best, organized method of establishing yourself as a strong leader.
It is important to remember that the dog is not bad or trying to make life miserable-although it sometimes may feel that way! The dog is the victim of a disorder that can be treated. The prognosis for recovery is excellent if you are willing to spend time working with the dog.
Don’t give up. Patience and consistency will either correct or improve the situation.
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